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Lessons to Relive – Changing Your Spots

Life is a roller coaster. This we all recognize. We must struggle through the lows to reach moments of true elation and happiness. And while on this unbalanced ride we face crises that mold our maturing minds and provide clarity on the pitfalls of life. But sometimes our personal evolution happens so quickly and completely that it becomes hard to pinpoint the moment that inspired the change…

Because sometimes the greatest lessons are transitory, being found in the most unexpected of places…

Sex Symbol, Superstar, Student

Hollywood is an eclectic sort of place where people from all walks of life can mingle and try their hand in the movie industry. Ambitious studio actors, sport celebrities, porn stars, musicians, men, women and all those in between vie for a spot on the big screen with fellow A-list actors. To see your name in bright lights is the ultimate accomplishment; a thrill incomparable to any extreme roller coaster, because it proves you made it.

But what if you’re already a seasoned performer; one that the whole world recognizes and clamors after for entertainment and drama?What if you were Marilyn Monroe? What couldHollywood do for you then?

A Leopard in Waiting

When I first read Don Murray’s account of his experience working with the exceptional Marilyn Monroe on Bus Stop, I was floored, shocked, touched and beyond a doubt enlightened. In a single instant my mind was altered; the perverse sentiments regarding a sex symbol and the corruption of Hollywood were forever altered to include the wisdom of a lost angel. You see, despite her outward charm and childlike frivolousness, Marilyn had an uncanny understanding on the purpose and process of life – to change.

And Hollywood was her mecca for reinvention; a place for her to try on new skin and experiment with new goals and ideals.

Before Bus Stop, Marilyn was first and foremost a sex symbol. Her blond hair, captivating eyes, and perfectly proportioned body were a shoe-in for male adoration the world over. She was the quintessential American blonde-bombshell and the camera loved her for it. Movie after movie came rolling in, exploiting her good looks and charming “dumb-blonde” persona. Her success was undeniable. Nobody wanted or felt she should change; why ruin a good thing? But Marilyn wasn’t satisfied in being typecast as the pretty, dumb girl.

After talking a year off to study and hone her craft at the Actor’s Studio, Marilyn returned to Hollywood searching for critical acclaim. Bus Stop was just the ticket and Don was lucky enough to be on the ride…

Marilyn was everything Don expected her to be; gorgeous yet uncoordinated in the viable workings of a film set. Her lack of concentration and short attention span made Don doubt her success as a serious artist. She had a childlike quality that contradicted the dramatic essence of the film, generating a murky and unstable environment for the superstar.

Although Marilyn knew her purpose and goal, her naïve mind doubted her presence and performance. She was in the middle of a transformation and couldn’t see the light at the end of tunnel.

And it was this utter lack of certainty and formable presence of confusion that sent her looking for outside help…

The conversation was quick, said in passing without any bells or whistles, but forever remains etched in Don’s soul as well as my own. “Don, do you think a leopard can ever change its spots?” Simple, direct and to the point. Can she, Marilyn Monroe, a quote-unquote dimwitted blonde, metamorphose into a credible dramatic performer?

We now know this to be true, but more importantly we know that with conviction anyone can change their spots. Marilyn just happened to be the teacher for Don. As she evolved from a sex symbol, to a superstar, to a humble student and finally a dramatic actress, her spots were constantly fluctuating to realign with her new roles and paths in life.

In a singular, unpretentious moment Marilyn Monroe laid out an unforgettable lesson – you can change and be whoever you want to be. Don didn’t need a sweeping,undeniable force to come gallivanting into his world and forcefully show him how to change and deal with the ups and downs of life. All it took was the softly spoken words of an innocent and wise blond bombshell…

Now we know that in order to stay on the roller coaster and enjoy the ride, we must learn to cope with theextremes of its peaks and valleys.

One Response to “Lessons to Relive – Changing Your Spots”

  1. MIMI Says:

    Wow, what a very touching post…
    Would love to have another post like this.
    Thank you for the share.

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